SSS Harbhajan Singh Khalsa & His Impact on Me

Here is a video which which was shown at the memorial service for Siri Singh Sahib Harbhajan Singh Khalsa (Oct 2004). It captures some themes that he taught throughout his 35+ years in America and worldwide.

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A friend asked me to write something about how my life was changed as a result of him. Sitting down now and thinking about it I am overwhelmed. I don’t even know where to start. There are just too many things. I grew up in Los Angeles where he used to live, so have been lucky to learn a lot from him growing up. He was like a great teacher and a wise grandfather wrapped in one. Most of us Sikhs referred to him as "Siri Singh Sahib", and the general public/yoga students called him "Yogi Bhajan".

It was common for people to request "spiritual" names (Sikh Names) from him for their new born child, or if they were becoming a Sikh. For whatever reason…he chose the name "Guru Mustuk Singh" for me right after I was born. I think it was very appropriate for me, and I take my name as a guiding light to keep me on track. That’s why I always encourage people to use their real Sikh names and not resort to nick names. Your name can be a reminder of being a better person and a good Sikh.

My understanding of the words "Guru Mustuk" is, Literally = "The Guru’s Forehead". "Forehead" symbolizes Destiny. As in, your destiny is written on your forehead. Guru = "Gu" means darkness, and "ru" means light. So for me Guru Mustuk means that I should serve others, teach and help bring people from darkness to light. I think this is why I am doing the work that I am doing. It is the one thing which gives my life purpose and is very satisfying.

Siri Singh Sahib ji impacted thousands and thousands of people and is still doing so, every single day, through the people that he taught. If you are not familiar with him you can read a little more about him and the history of him coming from India to America. Since it is hard to sum up 30 years of experiences I’ll just share a few things from my personal interactions with him.

Siri Singh Sahib truly was a visionary and always thought far into the future. Every thing he did was not necessarily for the now, but for generations down the line. Looking back I can see this. He really did do things slowly and steadily.

I remember lots of night classes that he taught, and coloring books, lying on the floor listening to him talk about every aspect of life. My mother used to always encourage me to go over to him after a class. Probably to see if he would give me some direction or tell me something that I should be doing in my life. He did quite often give me valuable advice and direction over the years.

I remember being a teenager and returning to America after years of boarding school in India. I didn’t have many friends, I wanted to fit in, was questioning my beliefs as a Sikh, wanted to do things which I was always told that I shouldn’t do. I started going out to dance clubs, drinking, smoking and shaving my beard; Pretty much going a totally different direction than I was raised. I remember feeling empty and struggling to find direction in my life. Feeling all the social pressure. Wanting to take the easy route and not follow the Sikh lifestyle.

Siri Singh Sahib…always seemed to know what was going on with me. During that period I would try to avoid him, because I knew he would see through my facade and confront me. When I eventually saw him he would very directly confront me. He is not one to sugar coat. This was his method:

"Poke, provoke, confront, elevate. First I must wake you up. That harshness you face from me, which is sometimes to the point of rudeness, is to wake you up from your spell of arrogance in which you have lost the game to begin with. After that, I get you into a dialogue. Third is to give you a reasonable experience so that you can move out of it and gain your life as it is, and be on your way. The process is not to make you my "clients." That’s not the process here. The process here is that you have the right to happiness and you have the right to success. Therefore, you must work to achieve it."

He used to say I had a lot of duality and was like an Eagle in the Day and a Wolf at night. He was correct and this was my struggle to find my identity and not try to be two things. I went through a few of these meetings. The second one was at the Winter Solstice Camp in Florida and I remember him getting really intense with me again. Saying that I was on "strike two" and that I didn’t want 3 strikes…because I would be out. It’s hard to explain how these meetings influenced me, but because of him I am here today doing what I am doing and on track with my life. He planted seeds in me that have grown over the years. Here is a letter from him a month before I started SikhNet.com.

I first started SikhNet (which was not called that at the time) in 1995 when I was living in New York. You can see the old home page here. That year Siri Singh Sahib came to New York and over to our house during his visit. He saw the website and knew the potential that it had. He directed me to move to Espanola, New Mexico to work at the Sikh Computer Consulting Company, Sun & Son. It was the end of december and he said to start work Jan 1st. Working at Sun & Son allowed me to learn a whole lot, and give me the tools and support which was later used to build SikhNet.com (which still stands today 10 years later).

One of the founders of Sun & Son (Guruka Singh) last year switched his job to work with SikhNet (as Executive Director). He is the actual founder of SikhNet which was started as a BBS system in the early 80′s. It’s amazing to be working again with him and on our beloved SikhNet. It’s so cool to see how Guruji works his magic and takes care of things.

Every minute I ever saw Siri Singh Sahib in his life he was helping people, advising, serving and teaching. His whole life was given to service. Even up to the days before he passed away he was still teaching. Over the years we have faced much criticism from the Sikh community at large. In spite of that he pushed on and stood firm with his direction. As a result the world is a changed place. The landscape of Sikhi is forever changed. I would not be a Sikh and doing SikhNet if it were not for him. All in all…. Guruji works in mysterious ways. He works through us all if we open ourselves and give our head to the Guru.

Some of you may not agree with Siri Singh Sahib’s methods, or understand what he taught, which is totally fine. But I would appreciate it if you feel like commenting on this message, that you do not post any negative or critical remarks. My posting these thoughts is not to start a debate, but to share a little slice of how he brought me to the Feet of Guru Nanak and changed my life forever.

19 Responses to “SSS Harbhajan Singh Khalsa & His Impact on Me”

  1. SikhsRus says:

    Gurumustak Ji,

    Thank you for sharing all this with us. It is very inspiring to hear about the changes you have made in your life thru Siri Singh Sahib’s guidance.

  2. Gurinder says:

    It is a powerful story! I think our youth in the western hemisphere are facing similar problems that you have faced after coming from india. Even though they are born in sikh dharma but fall under the pressure of society, friends, and for female partnership.

    In eastern part of Hemisphere youth have given up sikhi way of life because hardships brought by indian gov ( pressure, torture) more than 300,000 youth have been murdered by indian gov in punjab. I hope people will regain their strengths and Stand Tall along with Guru Gobind Singh ji and Shabizaday to protect the Sikh faith.
    However, your story gives hope to other sikh youth to NoT to give in…

    I have seen Yogi ji several times at Vancouver BC and loved his lectures followed by kirtan by American sikhs of that time. I and my sisters used to follow his SuVs one after the other Gurdwara to listen his lecture over and over again.

    Yogi was a great person, his Soul is still present with us

  3. Jaspal says:

    Many Problems in the world, not just related to Sikhi. But to all humanity.

    Problems we see here (west) are same back home (east).

    I say, listen to Guru Ji, contemplate Guru Ji’s Gurbani. Then take action.

    As for our lovely the worlds largest democracy, well no comments.

    All I will say is that the panth is not one. Will not be one for a long time (no matter what the 3HO, AKJ, etc. say, to many differences, too many different visions, too many people wanting to be king of the hill).

    When it will be one, by God, these Evil people will know it. (I am not just talking about Sikhs only, everyone who believes in Waheguru, muslim, hindu..etc.)

    We are all one.

    In the mean time, I beg for forgiveness and do Ardas that Waheguru Ji, “sorts it out”.

    Gurinder – 300,000 murders, yet we put in filtration systems that don’t even work (for hundreds of years people have been bathing in these pure waters, and now suddenly some rich family in America thinks its not clean, go figure), while the children of our Martyr’s suffer as orphans. We can build 20million pound Gurdwarey, while these children suffer.

    But don’t worry, Guru Ji is all knowing. Just remember the following and take it easy.

    “…O Nanak, it is written that you shall obey the Hukam of His Command, and walk in the Way of His Will.
    hukam rajaa-ee chalnaa naanak likhi-aa naal.

    By His Command, bodies are created; His Command cannot be described
    hukmee hovan aakaar hukam na kahi-aa jaa-ee..”
    Yes, everything is and has been going according to hukam, we just need the understanding and strength to accept Waheguru’s will.
    well me off, this is enough for me. hehe.
    :o)

    ps. any hate mail, email me. not here please. :op

  4. Hari Singh says:

    Gurumustuk Singh Ji,
    A very inspiring account. Whatever the public and Punjabi Sikhs may say, it has to be accepted that Yogi Ji was the only person to bring the Wonderful words of the Guru to many thousands of Western folks. No one else has been able to do that! This is a fact and not open to debate – Due to his efforts and sacrifices, many more proud Sikhs follow the message of our Gurus and in my biased opinion make the world a better place.

    May his memory, legacy and the Gurus message continue to live and grow!

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  6. reflecxion says:

    truly inspiring video…

  7. Darsh KHALSA says:

    Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
    Gurumustuk Singh Khalsa ji I m the same person who sent u the mail containing my problems and today i’ve downloaded this video and had a look at it. believe me Sir i dont have words to describe wot i m feeling after having a look at it. it has changed me a lot. thanx a lot Sir for sharing ur valuable collections wid us and let me tell u that u r proving to b a lighthouse in a true sense by guiding us towards the right path. we wud not have been able to see this all widout u and u r proving urself to be a gud child of GOD. thanx a lot Sir. thanx a lot. I’ll beg to GOD for ur and ur family’s welfare. once again thanx a lot sir.
    Satnam

  8. wonderful story , thanks for sharing gurumustak, many soul will learn from this experience.

  9. Amarjot says:

    Satnam,

    Gurumustuk Singh ji can you please tell me who is the person singing Ra Ma Da Sa Sa Say So Hung in the end of the vedio. Also please help me identify the music CD for sadhna.

    Amar

  10. Amarjot…the music is by my mother Sat Kirin Kaur and the album is “Universal Prayer”.

    Order from Amazon.com or SpiritVoyage.com

  11. Such a wonderful story. Thanks for sharing it . Many soul will learn from this.

  12. Amarjot says:

    Satnam!!

    Gurumustuk Singh ji per your suggestion I bought the album “Universal Prayer” by Sat Kirin Kaur but did not find Ra Ma Da Sa Sa Say So Hung.

    Please advice.
    Amarjot

  13. JASMEET SINGH says:

    Waheguru ji

    Thanks for making such a beautiful site. With the grace of Gog and Siri Singh Sahib its realy helps me to do simran in the morning.

    Every day i open the site and trying understand what Siri Singh Sahib try to explain us, and belive me every day i learn new thngs. Everday my interset in gurbane is increasing. Thanks a lot.

    Wahe Guru ji

  14. Learner says:

    Thankyou so much for this beautiful post! It is so helpful in the lives of many, including my own! You are doing an amazing job to be the lighthouse that Yogi Bhajan talks about. Thankyou from the bottom of my heart! :)

  15. Hardev Singh says:

    Very Inspiring and Uplifting.

    Always, Chardi Kala

  16. Kamaljit Kaur says:

    Very inspiring, as always.. Thanks for sharing this with us, many others will benefit from it..

    God Bless You..

  17. dario santacruz veslin says:

    Wonderful and beautiful history…..Please , I am looking for a litle help …I lost  information  about my  friend guru singh khalsa ra….After hurricane andrew  in florida , i lost contact with him …If somebody read this and know something about him , please  give me a e-mail  …god will  bless you

  18. dario santacruz veslin says:

    Thanks a lot for the publication ….I am thinking in  my old friend guru singh khalsa ra   very strong from a week ago….

  19. dario santacruz veslin says:

    Just to say GOD BLESS EVERYBODY we will continue vibrating under GOD knowledge and looking for peace in my country…One smile for eachone from south america…..