Dear Yogi Ji

Q. My spouse and I are always arguing. What can we do?

A. How can you love somebody so much and then three or four years later start hating each other? A relationship is where your highest spirituality is tested by tolerance. Most fighting comes as a result of basic insecurity. We all want our security to be guaranteed. The other person cannot give you that guarantee. It has nothing to do with right and wrong. It is a matter of understanding. Understanding means stand under. In relationships you have to stand under each other. Do not try to be macho, or very wise